I grew up in a Christian Evangelical Free church. I have only fond memories of my time at church. Nothing weird, nothing over-the-top, nothing out of the ordinary. In high school I rededicated my life to Christ, witnessed to friends and boyfriends, struggled with what God wanted me to do in my life. I went to a prestigious Christian College and loved every minute of it. I studied elementary education, Spanish, and Bible/Theology. I wanted to make a difference. I did love God. I thought I felt his presence. I felt he was urging me to go into missions, and I was so excited. I loved traveling (my family traveled overseas often for mission trips and vacations) and wanted to give up everything for Him. That’s what He would want. That would please Him. That was my life’s purpose.
Long story short, I found myself just as planned, in South America, married to an Ecuadorian, thrilled to be overseas. That first year, my faith was shaken. I went through times of extreme loneliness and trials. I prayed, not for God to remove these struggles, but just for signs and feelings that he was near. Nothing changed, except for the feelings of immense guilt that I would test Him like that. During my first pregnancy, I dealt with immense pain that the doctors couldn’t figure out. I remember being in the hospital bed, clinging to the railing and crying out with pain, praying the most sincere and begging prayer I have ever prayed- again, not that He would remove the pain, but that I would feel some type of comfort. It seemed a small thing to ask.
When, again, nothing happened, I was left disillusioned, guilty, and confused. I came to the decision that God really didn’t love me the way I had learned and believed he did. It was more like my distant grandfather, who loved me because he had to out of family ties, but he really didn’t know me. I knew it went against all the teaching I had previously had, and I was torn between what I felt to be true and what I was told in the Bible and church.
Later, in the US, through Beth Moore Bible studies, I was told that it was my fault. God was there, but I gave into Satan’s lies. I believed Satan, doubted, and that’s why I did not feel God. If I had stayed in the Word, remained faithful in the “desert”, then I wouldn’t be in the bitter stage I was now. I tried to repent, and continued the facade…but things were never the same as they were pre-struggle.
It seems silly — others have gone through much worse and came out with even stronger faith. *shrug* It didn’t happen with me. I still believed in the Bible, Christianity, God, but the seed was sown. That’s where the ball slowly started rolling.